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StirFriedPanda said:

1. I've never felt comfortable with the word stan but I sometimes use it. If feels like a weird way to apply the term because in my had it should mean to "stand" for something (moral, law, etc). Standing for Apink, BTW, BP, who ever seems weird. I chalk it up to me being positively ancient in k-pop terms. It's just slang. Slang is constantly evolving. This comment honestly feels like an english professor explaining why this new term is wrong based on a 1900 dictionary.

The next two comments I want to address together because they feel related. First lets define Obsession as a hyper-fixation that interfears with a persons basic ability to function and make positive life decisions. Anything and everything can become an obsession. I bet if a normal adult saw my kpop collection and saw how much I love K-pop they might consider me obsessed but; I worked through 4.5 years of college. I have 2 degree's. I go to work. I pay my bills... most of the time. I mostly, I hope, make positive life decisions but I'm not perfect. It's ok to be deeply passionate about anything at any time as long as it's not affecting your ability to make good decisions. Kpop saved me from some really dark times and keeps me going.

The second part of this deals with the dreams of idols. I've always loved to see expertise. I love watching a master blacksmith make an amazing piece of iron work, knife, sword, etc. I also love seeing how idols grow and become better. I love watching their dreams come true. It gives me hope in a really difficult world and I think my love of k-pop makes me a better person. It's no secret the K-pop industry does some really dirty things. Child debt, a poor view of needing mental health treatment, keeping idols from their families; I could honestly go on and on. But every industry has bad actors. I've said it more than a few times. As much as I respect and appreciate what JYP has created... I'd still love to break his nose on behalf of Tzuyu. But being angry about all the bad and writing off kpop hurts more people than it helps. If we all walk away from kpop because it's not perfect far more people get hurt than people get helped. I'm not saying we sacrifice for a few for the many. I'm saying we need to fight for those who got hurt along the way and keep the industry headed in a positive direction but using our voices, and sometimes our money.

Lastly, about the pretty guys. Men can be pretty. Men can be beautiful. Men can be hot. Men can be sexy. Men can be cute. Women don't own those descriptions. I've seen Itzy's Ryujin described as handsome and no one seemed to think it was derogitory and it didn't feel derogitory at all. She's beautiful, especially in this last comeback. Her styalist is killing me! I honest don't know how I feel about the relm of transgender/gender neutral or any of that. But I know my fellow humans just want to be loved and respected so that's what I try and do. I recognize I have a feminin side and and for years I was scared of it and confused. It took me a long time to sort it out(mostly). I wear feminin clothing sometimes. I think it's silly and counter productive to state what a woman or a man should look like in an iron clad box and pretend thats the only way it is. It's honestly a weird and useless hill to die on. I would personally be thrilled if someone thought I was beautiful, pretty or cute, but i've also known men that would break your nose if you called them pretty. If those idols aren't offended then why should anyone else be?!

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Would you say me not wanting to go to college would be wasting my time :/ i mean, i want to go somewhere that focuses on music production (i had this dream to be a songwriter/producer even before i found kpop) but I've been told that i wouldn't stand out to anybody and it's not worth the time and I'm not talented enough for it. I don't really have many other interests that could turn into a job, so i didn't see any reason to go to a standard college. My grades have been dropping since i hit 7th grade and i feel like it's more because I'm trying to achieve my dream and try to work hard in school simultaneously and it's causing me to fail at both in the long run. I have noticed that i listen to more music than i used to, which might seem obsessive, but i not only use it to learn about writing styles, techniques and such, i also use what i listen to as a way to cope with anxiety. Whenever i have a panic attack in a place that's not home where somebody is there to help me, like school, i turn on my music and after a while, i start to calm down. I'm 15 so i hope this is just a phase....and i wouldn't consider myself obsessed, but my family and friends would and it's started to take an impact on me, but whenever i try slowing down on the music i listen to, it just speeds back up before i know it.... I've written too much and i kinda lost my place lol